School resources
Asking for help at school is smaller than it sounds. Here's exactly who to ask, what to say, and what happens afterwards.
Who you can go to
School counselor
The default starting point. They can meet during a free period, loop in teachers without giving details, and connect you to outside therapy.
Advisor or trusted teacher
If a counselor feels like too big a step, tell the adult you already talk to. They can walk you down the hall.
Nurse or wellness room
A legitimate place to go when you need ten minutes out of class. You don't need to explain everything.
Dean or division head
For workload, deadlines, or a situation with another student that needs to actually change.
What to actually say
Borrow these word for word. You don't owe anyone the full story to get help.
You want to talk but don't know how to open
"Do you have a few minutes? Something's been going on and I don't really know who to tell."
You need a break during class
"I'm not feeling okay. Can I step out for a few minutes?"
Work has become impossible
"I'm struggling with my mental health right now and I'm behind. Can we make a plan for these assignments?"
You're worried about a friend
"I'm worried about someone and I don't want to break their trust. Can you help me figure out what to do?"
What stays private
Counselors keep what you say confidential. The exception is safety: if you or someone else is in danger, they have to involve a parent or another adult. They will normally tell you before doing it, and you can ask how it will happen.
Things you can ask for
- • An extension or a reduced workload for a week
- • A quiet place to take a test
- • Permission to step out of class when overwhelmed
- • A check-in schedule so you're not starting over each time
- • Help telling your parents, with the counselor in the room
Not sure this is the right door?
Run through a few questions and we'll point you somewhere that fits better.
Where do I start?